To millions of viewers he’s the crazy Brazilian figure of fun, the Romeo from Rio – and the man who has set X Factor on fire.  
Yet behind the scenes, Wagner Carrilho is in utter torment, fighting a daily personal battle at being estranged from his beloved three-year-old son Cassius. While the acts this week visit their home towns to see their families, Wagner knows he has no chance of getting a hug from the one person in the world he desperately wants to see.

“That boy is Wagner’s absolute reason for being out there and doing what he’s doing. The only reason he wants to make money is so he can give him the best life he can,” said Wagner’s best friend Ian Fleming.

The heartbroken 54-year-old has had no contact with Cassius for several months, amid a bitter fall-out with the boy’s mother, Jenny Yawari.

 

 

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And as the show has continued, Wagner’s desperation over not being able to see Cassius has escalated. And in a further blow, Jenny has told the Sunday Mirror that his son has been watching X Factor… but no longer recognises his father.

Jenny, 36, who has re-married and lives in the West Midlands, said: “Cassius watches X Factor, but he’s too young to understand who his dad is.” She claimed: “Things are very difficult, because I’ve had trouble with him coming to the house.

“I don’t want to say anything that might jeopardise the situation.

“I just want to protect my kids.”

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Lock em Up  &  throw away the key!  

Mothers who defy contact court orders should have our children removed and given over to the father. Top judge says.

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Today is “day 315” without those who I love.

Counting the days to the day we are together.   

 

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THOUSANDS of vulnerable kids like Baby P are at risk because the organisation meant to protect them is “not fit for purpose”.  

A damning report warns today that children are put at risk by chaos at the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service.

It is riddled with “weaknesses in its culture, management and performance”.

Read more: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/3221815/Thousands-of-kids-at-risk-as-child-welfare-body-declared-not-fit-for-purpose.html#ixzz14zaSa2ui

 


Amnesty International Betrays Public By Hiding Human Rights Abuses and Sexism in Sweden.

“I want to be Dad as much as Mums what to be Mums”     “View Video”

Sweden seems like a progressive country to the uninformed. It has parental leave policies for both genders. While mothers have always availed themselves of such leave, fathers seemed reluctant. So the parental leave laws have changed over time to encourage fathers to take time off of work after the birth of a baby. At present, two months of the 390 leave days allocated for parents must be used by the father or they are lost.

“Without the hope of seeing my children again it would be hard to carry on”

(from Why it’s time to reimagine masculinity at work and at home.)

Consider contemporary family life in Sweden. In the past, new parents split 390 days of paid leave however they liked—monthly, weekly, daily, and even hourly. Women used far more of it than men. But today, new fathers no longer rush back to work, leaving the mother to raise little Sven all by herself. The reason for the change? Smart public policy.

In 1995, Sweden passed a simple but revolutionary law: couples would lose one month of leave unless the father was the one who took it. A second use-it-or-lose-it month was added in 2002, and now more than 80 percent of Swedish fathers take four months off for the birth of a new child, up from 4 percent a decade ago. And a full 41 percent of companies now formally encourage fathers to go on parental leave, up from only 2 percent in 1993. Simply put, men are expected to work less and father more.

By altering the roles of the Swedish father and the Swedish worker, Sweden’s paternity-leave legislation has, in turn, rewritten the rules for Swedish men (and, by extension, women). “Swedish dads of my generation and younger have been raised to feel competent at child-rearing,” writes Slate’s Nathan Hegedus, an American who experienced the system firsthand. “They simply expect to do it, just as their wives and partners expect it of them.” If a man refuses time at home with the kids, he faces questions from friends, family, and, yes, other guys. Policy changes produced personal changes—and then, slowly but surely, society changed as well.

“We are moving towards a fatherless society”

On the surface, this sounds quite progressive. The United States lacks similar leave policies and American men often feel discouraged from taking time off from work for family matters. They fear they will be looked down upon, ridiculed, or passed over for promotions if they take more than a short time away from work for a new baby.

But the reality is that Sweden’s progressiveness is merely a veneer over a solid core of the same false feminist male-bashing that predominates in the Western world. Children in Sweden, you see, are treated as property of the mother. If the mother doesn’t want to share, she simply starts making false abuse allegations. No proof is required, obviously a mad mom’s word is more reliable than all the evidence in the world. She will be quickly and easily rewarded with sole custody, marginalizing the father to no more a few days per month with the children.

Many fathers quickly see even this small amount of contacted whittled down to just a few hours of supervised visitation, supervised because obviously fathers cannot be trusted with children if the mother says so. In Sweden, as in the United States, men are guilty upon accusation and must struggle to prove themselves innocent, a task which is effectively impossible in many cases. After all, if you are a man who was accused of some crime that nobody else saw and there is no evidence of it occurring or not occurring, how are you to prove that you didn’t do it when a mom says you did? You can’t, so her lies win.

If a father fights for equal child custody, Swedes will consider him a brute. If he is beaten senseless by false accusations from a malicious mom, his life in tatters, he will suffer in many ways including by very limited contact with his children. Then Swedes will consider him a deadbeat. Being a father in Sweden is a losing proposition, the only chance of success is at the whim of a woman. But if she changes her mind, for any reason — her affair, her drug abuse problem, etc. — the father is instantly a degenerate who should be banned from seeing the children without the watchful eyes of the state closely monitoring his every move.

This is no different, really, than the United States and many other nations in which men are not even second-class citizens in all matters involving families and children. Not only is this extremely unfair, it contributes to a wide range of social problems including gender conflict, parental alienation child abuse, and harming children’s educational attainment and mental health.

To their credit, many women understand these issues very well and fully support equal rights. Some of them are strident enough about it to actively support both the father’s rights movement and going to significant effort to ensure their own ex-partners stay involved in their children’s lives. Unfortunately, there are more than a few naysayers remaining. Some of them are quite intent on not only denying equal rights but going so far as to even any messages that advocate for changes they do not approve.

Amnesty International Shows Its Sexist Bias

A lot of children in Sweden are upset about deprivation of access to a loving parent, generally their fathers. Four Swedish high school students, Sara Sivesson, Jerry Wallén, Sandra Atas, and Oskar Krantz, set out to expose Sweden’s human rights crimes against children and fathers to the world. They produced a video which they submitted to Amnesty International for a human rights video contest. Their video explains what happens to so many Swedish fathers who long to spend time with their children but who are prevented from doing so by the typical false feminist tool of false accusations.

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FNF PUSHCHAIR MARCH SAT 4TH DEC

http://www.fnf.org.uk/

Whitehall, London

4th December 2010 08:00AM

I always think its a good idea just remind ourselves from time to time that as citizens of the UK we are also citizens of  “The European Convention” which regardless of the failings of our UK Family Law system we as men are protected by. This means a number of important  things.  

Firstly, that under the European Law and its Human Rights Conventions we are entitled too the following.

1). Article 7.1  No Punishment without Law

1. No one shall be held guilty of any criminal offence on account of any act or omission which did not constitute a criminal offence under national or international law at the time when it was committed. Nor shall a heavier penalty be imposed than the one that was applicable at the time the criminal offence was committed. 

This means that you cant be found guilty of a law that does not exist. In particular a law that says one cannot express him or herself in the way he or she wishes so long as it does not infringe on anyone else’s security or health. If we want to criticize a law “The Family Law” for instance or a “politician” or “judge” for instance then we are free to do so. This is what democracy is! Isn’t it? Or is it? So many questions.

I will also bring to the attention of my readers that under European Law we are allowed the following rights.

Article 8  The Right to respect for private and family life

1 Everyone has the right to respect for his private and family life, his home and his correspondence.

2 There shall be no interference by a public authority with the exercise of this right except such as is in accordance with the law and is necessary in a democratic society in the interests of national security, public safety or the economic well-being of the country, for the prevention of disorder or crime, for the protection of health or morals, or for the protection of the rights and freedoms of others.  

Article 9 Freedom of thought, conscience and religion

1 Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion; this right includes freedom to change his religion or belief and freedom, either alone or in community with others and in public or private, to manifest his religion or belief, in worship, teaching, practice and observance.

Article 10 Freedom of expression

1 Everyone has the right to freedom of expression. This right shall include freedom to hold opinions and “To receive and impart information and ideas without interference by public authority and regardless of frontiers”. This Article shall not prevent States from requiring the licensing of broadcasting, television or cinema enterprises.

Having reviewed and revisited these seemingly taken for granted RIGHTS it seems that internet blogging about the issues we feel are right and proper are our right Dad,s and no one including the state has the right to take those rights away from us. Of course we fully understand that there are provisions. In that, we cannot be seen to be critisising or undermining someone elses rights in doing so. So, this poses a very important question for me. If this is the case then we cannot be openy critical about those we dont agree with. “Or can we” ?? Even more questions.


Third of family break-up children lose contact with fathers in ‘failing’ court system

The Telegraph 16th November 2010

One in three children whose parents separated or divorced over the last 20 years disclosed that they had lost contact permanently with their father. 

Almost a tenth of children from broken families said the acrimonious process had left them feeling suicidal while others later sought solace in drink, drugs or crime.

They complained of feeling “isolated” and “used” while parents admitted having used children as “bargaining tools” against each other.

Lawyers said the study showed that the court system itself was making family break-up more acrimonious with children used as “pawns”. 

They warned that so-called “no fault” divorces were encouraging warring parents to channel their “bloodletting” into disputes over contact.

Opposition politicians said the poll presented an alarming picture of a system “in a mess” which was all too often leaving fathers “shut out”.

The poll of 4,000 parents and children was carried out to provide a snapshot of the workings of the family court system exactly 20 years after the implementation of the landmark 1989 Children Act.

It found that a third of children from broken families had been tempted by drink or drugs while as many as 10 per cent had later become involved in crime.

A quarter of the children said that they had been asked to lie to one parent by the other and 15 per cent said they had even been called on to “spy” for their mother or father.

Meanwhile half of parents polled admitted deliberately drawing out the legal process for maximum benefit and more than two thirds conceded that they had used their children as “bargaining tools”.

About 250,000 couples, both married and non-married, separate every year affecting 350,000 kids, according to the Department for Children Schools and Families.

“The adversarial nature of the system invites people to come and use the courts system as a punch up and the children get used as pawns,” said Sandra Davis, head of family law at Mishcon de Reya, for whom the poll was conducted.

“It polarises parents and it puts children in the middle of the antagonism.

“Some fathers back off because it is too painful to carry on litigating, they give up.”

Tim Loughton, the Tory Shadow children’s minister, said: “This is alarming evidence of the very detrimental impact it is having on the welfare of the children themselves.”

“Clearly, the court system is failing and is positively encouraging conflict – and continuing conflict.”

Iain Duncan Smith, the former Conservative leader and founder of the Centre for Social Justice, warned that young people were bearing the scars of a divorce “boom” and a resulting lack of father figures.

“It is a mess, it needs a complete overhaul,” he said. “It is an organisation locked in secrecy and deeply unhelpful to the parents and the children and all too often able to exacerbate the problems that they are about to face.”

David Laws, the Liberal Democrat children’s spokesman, added: “In too many cases the children become caught up in the crossfire between two warring parties in a system which sometimes encourages the parents to take entrenched positions.”

Miss Davis called for compulsory mediation for parents hoping to use the divorce courts rather than the current ”tick box” exercise for those seeking legal aid.

But a spokesman for the Children’s Society said that compulsion “goes against everything we have learned from many, many years of experience”.

Delyth Morgan, the children’s minister, added: “Divorce and separation can have a devastating impact on children caught in the middle.

“But this survey, looking as far back as 20 years ago, simply doesn’t reflect what support is available for families now … we have acted to give families comprehensive counselling, practical and legal support.”

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Broken homes cost the UK £100 billion a year!! 

Children from broken homes are nine times more likely to commit a crime than those brought up in stable families, a senior Cabinet minister warned last night.

Iain Duncan Smith said the collapse of marriage had brought soaring crime rates, doubled the chances of living in poverty and cost the country an astonishing £100billion a year.

The Work and Pensions Secretary accused Labour of undermining marriage and family life and said the country had paid a ‘heavy price’ in deeper poverty, high crime and poor life chances for the children of families that failed to stay together.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1326420/Children-parents-split-NINE-times-likely-commit-crime.html#ixzz14ItZBs00

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